James 4:1-3 (ETRV) 1 Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that make war inside you. 2 You want things, but you don't get them. So you kill and are jealous of others. But you still cannot get what you want. So you argue and fight. You don't get what you want because you don't ask God. 3 Or when you ask, you don't receive anything, because the reason you ask is wrong. You only want to use it for your own pleasure.
Take time just to meditate on this verse.
Our conflict with others come because we are being selfish and wanting our way instead of being godly and allowing the self-sacrificing nature of Christ to be formed in us. We will do whatever it takes to get our own way. Think about your marriage relationship, your relationship with your parents or kids, or co-workers, relationships with God’s people…what conflicts are you facing?
Can the conflict be settled if we chose to put others above ourselves?
Examine your motives for wanting what you want, is your motivation for selfish pleasure or for the glory of God?
What desires do you need to surrender to God today?
What relational conflicts do you need to resolve by choosing to die to yourself and allow Christ’s nature to be developed in you?
Are we growing up in Christ or simply growing old?