Relationships Over Possessions
8 So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives. 9 Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”
Abraham valued his relationship with Lot, so much so that he would rather separate from him than stay together and be at odds. Then Abraham allows Lot to choose whatever land he wanted. He stands down, refusing to fight for what he thought to be the best land. Instead, he offers Lot the first choice, demonstrating he values Lot more than any piece of land.
While attending college in Oregon, I lived in an apartment and bought a papasan chair (one of those round chairs with a thick cushion) for our living room. I woke up the next morning and my roommate had pulled the white cushion on to the floor and was sleeping on it in the middle of the living room. When I got closer I noticed a huge drool spot on it… I flipped out. I started going off on him, interrogating him and accusing him of ruining my new chair. He tried to tell me his back had been hurting and he couldn’t sleep on his mattress, but I was too upset as I was convinced he had ruined my new chair. Looking back, I was definitely overreacting and being a diva about it… pretty embarrassing. Anyway, after I stopped ranting he looked at me, surprised at how angry I was, and said, “People are more important than things.” I said, "Whatever" and stormed out of the room.
While I just shrugged it off at first, I couldn’t get that statement to stop replaying in my mind. God convicted me. “Levi, he’s right.” Since then there’s been several times I have headed down the path of putting possessions or money over people and relationships, and God has reminded me of my foolishness and that people are more important than things.
Put relationships first!
God, forgive me for the times I’ve lost my cool when people haven’t paid me back, the times I’ve overreacted when my son accidentally breaks something, the times I’ve wanted something for myself more than I’ve wanted to bless someone or preserve a relationship. I don’t ever want to get what I want, and in the process lose the person. Help me to be like Abraham and for my love for people to always trump any concern for material things. Amen.